Bailey is eight years old. He loves trains, construction, Lego and cute babies. His heart is beautiful, his nature is generous, and his behaviour is out of control. This week he hit one of his teachers, bit his brother and had a record number of emotional and physical outbursts. My son needs help to control his behaviour, and the answer doesn’t lie in just increasing his medications. I want to find the cause behind his difficulties, help him gain control and think clearly.
At present, his brain is not functioning as it should. Regardless of how big his heart is or how much he wants to do the right thing, because of his Aspergers and ADHD it’s not physically possible. I am about to start the process of re-wiring my son’s brain so it can function clearly. After asking thousands of questions and completing many hours of research I feel like an apprentice neuro psychology electrician, and I’m ready with my soldering iron!
When I saw this picture, I felt my heart break. There it was, the cause for his ADHD. And it was BIG and RED. Pretty hard to miss really!
I was delighted to see that these areas were quite isolated from the rest of his brain function. The doctor said that Bailey has quite a “clean” brain, as noted by the large amount of grey areas. I was relieved that it wasn’t as “colourful” as I had expected!
“Aspergers Syndrome” is mostly a social and communication disorder, in order to prove a diagnosis of “Autism” the QEEG would have needed to show difficulties in other parts of his brain as well.
So what to do with this new information?
Neurotherapy. During Neurotherapy, a real-time QEEG is displayed on a computer in the form of a game, and the child is given audio-visual rewards for producing less Theta and more Beta waves. The Neurotherapy retrains the brain to use the areas that are functioning slowly. After training, the brain normalizes, the ADHD symptoms reduce and the effect is life long. No more Ritalin!
There are computer-based programs available, such as Fast ForWord, which help build receptive and expressive language skills. Fast ForWord uses seven games that are designed to train the brain to process sounds more efficiently and rapidly. As the child successfully performs the tasks within the games, the speech sounds are gradually shortened until the child can process these sounds in real time. The results are not only an improvement in language issues but it also helps children be more connected socially.
We will be starting both Neurotherapy and the Fast ForWord programs as soon as possible. I will also be repeating the QEEG after 6 months to see the physical differences these programs make. I am hopeful and optimistic that we’re going to see huge changes in Bailey’s social skills, communication and behaviour.
To achieve a true breakthrough for Bailey, he will also need to be supported with good nutrition and dietary supplements. We’ve now become a gluten free house, we’re making our own gluten free pizza’s for dinner, and are about to become dairy free as well. Omega 6 oils are being replaced with Omega 3 oils whilst boosting Iron and Vitamin B levels. Knowing that Bailey has genetic gene mutation MTHFR-677T (one copy) also means that we can increase his glutathione, which will help him detoxify his body of all of the nasty toxins he has accumulated.
You can probably understand now why my mind is so heavy. It’s full of new research and information that I know will help my son. Why is my heart so heavy? I feel terribly guilty that I didn’t know this information until now. Every time my son does the wrong thing I always blame myself. Not enough rules, not enough boundaries, not enough discipline. Why aren’t other children in his class like this? What have I done wrong?
My heart is still heavy but the emotional hangover of guilt is slowly healing. Thanks to his QEEG, I can visually see why my son is different. No amount of gold star traditional parenting could have fixed what was going on in his mind.
I’m taking steps, I’m moving forward. I’m educating myself as to how I can help my son in other ways like Neurotherapy and nutrition. I’m writing my own book on how to be a gold star special needs parent. It’s not just about trying to change behaviours; it’s also about finding the cause behind the behaviours. If I can find the cause, I won’t have to medicate the symptoms. One piece at a time I am building my knight in shining armour, representing hope, for a cure.